Alright folks, lemme tell you ’bout this thing I’ve been playing around with – rooted psychology. Sounds fancy, right? Well, it ain’t. It’s just me trying to get my head straight by digging into where my actions and feelings actually come from.
So, it all started last week. I was feeling super off, just grumpy and irritable for no real reason. I caught myself snapping at my wife, which is totally not cool. I thought, “Alright, gotta figure out what’s going on here.” I started by just writing stuff down. Stream of consciousness type thing. Just letting whatever came to mind flow onto the page.
Then, the real work began. I started looking for patterns. Like, okay, I notice I get super defensive when someone questions my work. Why is that? I realized it goes back to when I was a kid. My dad was always on my case about doing things “right,” and I never felt good enough. Boom, there’s a root! Years later that thing still haunts me.
Next step: challenge the thinking. Is that old belief even true anymore? Am I really not good enough? Of course not! I’m a grown-ass adult, I’m competent, and I know what I’m doing (most of the time!). Reframing it like that made a huge difference. I actively worked to tell myself a new story.
I also started noticing my triggers. What situations or types of people set me off? Once I could identify them, I could prepare myself mentally. Like, if I knew I was going into a meeting where I’d be getting feedback, I’d remind myself beforehand that feedback is a good thing, it’s a chance to learn and grow. It was helpful.
The biggest thing? Being honest with myself. This ain’t easy. It’s tough to admit that you’re acting in a certain way because of something that happened years ago. But you know, facing that stuff is the only way to actually move forward.
I wouldn’t say I’m totally “fixed” or anything, but this whole rooted psychology thing has definitely helped. I’m more aware of my own BS, I’m reacting less, and I’m feeling a heck of a lot more in control. It’s like peeling an onion, one layer at a time. There’s still more to uncover, but at least I’m moving in the right direction.
Here’s what I actually did:
- Journaled daily: Just brain dumping everything onto paper.
- Identified triggers: What made me react negatively?
- Traced back to root causes: When did I first feel this way?
- Challenged my beliefs: Are these beliefs still valid?
- Practiced reframing: Tried to see situations in a new light.
- Focused on self-compassion: Being kind to myself during the process.
Look, I’m no therapist, just sharing what worked for me. Maybe it’ll help you too. It’s all about digging down and figuring out what makes you tick, and then working to change those old patterns that aren’t serving you anymore. Give it a shot, what’s the worst that can happen?
